Are you losing your child’s heart?
Preferably, have someone else ask your child these questions, so he/she can feel free to be completely honest.
- “Close your eyes and imagine your mom/dad’s face. Now tell me, is she/he smiling?”
- “Do you believe your mom/dad loves you?” This is the easy question, and 90% of the kids will answer “yes”. Now, ask him/her: “Do you feel like your mom/dad understands you?”
- “When you have free time do you like to spend it with your mom/dad (or would you rather spend it with someone else or doing other things)?”
- “Does your mom/dad prefer spending time with YOU than with someone else (other than your spouse) or doing other things (work, computer, hobbies)?
- “Does your mom/dad lead you by example 100% (does she/he live exactly the way she/he expects you to live)?”
Give an example: “I told you not to yell at your little brother! –but she/he does yell at other people.
- “When you have a conflict with your mom/dad, does she/he take the initiative to solve it completely?”
- “Does your mom/dad know how to recognize her/his faults and ask for forgiveness?”
- “Would you tell your mom/dad everything you would tell your best friend?”
- “Is your mom/dad the person you admire the most?”
- “When your mom/dad says ‘I’ll play with you later’, do you actually think there will be a ‘later’?”
If your child answered “no”:
1 time: You’re on the right track but you need to tune up a few things or the “no’s” will begin to multiply.
2-4 times: Immediate Alert. You have to change your ways asap!
5 or more: State of emergency. You are already losing your child’s heart. He/she may outwardly obey you but the seeds of rebellion have been planted in her/his heart. There is hope! But you must make some radical changes!